I tend to use stages of okay when someone asks me this - like, I'm "medium-okay" today, or I'm "solid-okay" (meaning I'm really and truly okay, not just saying it, and not just barely-okay). I find it helps me give an honest answer while being as accurate as possible.
I agree that this definition needs exploration! I have a loved one who would ask me “how are you feeling?” and when I’d answer “I’m okay,” he would always follow up with “oh, what’s wrong?” I had to clarify that my definition of “okay” meant there’s nothing *wrong* - things are alright, I’m just not feeling ESPECIALLY energetic/upbeat and that’s perfectly fine :)
Yeah, ok should be acceptable, at least at any given moment. Some people seem to live by a doctrine than anything less than fabulous should always be addressed as a crisis. Which kind of sounds exhausting.
This is my favorite takeaway from this topic and where I feel I land with myself lately - in these descriptions, “okay” feels more than “okay. It feels strong:
“But being okay is a daily tension between accepting where we are and believing we can go further.
Sometimes it also means getting more comfortable with uncertainty.”
I tend to use stages of okay when someone asks me this - like, I'm "medium-okay" today, or I'm "solid-okay" (meaning I'm really and truly okay, not just saying it, and not just barely-okay). I find it helps me give an honest answer while being as accurate as possible.
I was thinking of I’m Ok - You’re OK from the Games People Play by Eric Berne described Transnational Analysis https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Games_People_Play_(book)
Yikes! That should be Transactional.
I agree that this definition needs exploration! I have a loved one who would ask me “how are you feeling?” and when I’d answer “I’m okay,” he would always follow up with “oh, what’s wrong?” I had to clarify that my definition of “okay” meant there’s nothing *wrong* - things are alright, I’m just not feeling ESPECIALLY energetic/upbeat and that’s perfectly fine :)
Yeah, ok should be acceptable, at least at any given moment. Some people seem to live by a doctrine than anything less than fabulous should always be addressed as a crisis. Which kind of sounds exhausting.
Just coming by to say love love love this today!
Thanks for this - I love the breakdown of the various parts. Made me realise that I need to improve the Durkheim section.
This is my favorite takeaway from this topic and where I feel I land with myself lately - in these descriptions, “okay” feels more than “okay. It feels strong:
“But being okay is a daily tension between accepting where we are and believing we can go further.
Sometimes it also means getting more comfortable with uncertainty.”