"Never say yes automatically" - this reminds me of Brene Brown's method of spinning her spinner ring (that she calls her boundaries ring) three times when someone asks her to do something so she has time to remind herself to "choose discomfort over resentment."
Both quotes prioritize only saying yes to the things that won't make you feel crazy or make you regret them later. You're building something. You're building for yourself a life of peace.
I love her advice: go for walks. Read somewhere that we’re built for 12 miles a day. She actually suggests this twice: take hikes. Walking is powerful. Cheryl strayed walked the pacific trail and kicked her heroin habit in the process. I would add to this something that has had a big effect on my mental health: take long drives. When I am home stewing in indecision and chewing on a problem I need resolved, no solutions come to mind. But if I leave the house and drive 45 minutes and more, the solutions find me. I have had so many aha moments while driving that it is my go to. Partly it is a much needed change of scenery but I am convinced other magic I cannot identify is going on.
I agree with the don’t say yes idea in principle but I also believe that doing hard things or kind things we don’t want to do is sometimes the best thing even for ourselves.
Always fascinating, Chris, to sit in with you on these interviews. Melissa Urban is a brand new discovery. The New Whole 30 sounds like her "lessons learned" from lots of customers. Some context with your audience would be helpful. Can you estimate what percentage of your total audience has embraced and committed to everything in the Whole 30? And you? When did you first find and then follow the Whole 30?
Hi Chris. I’ve been meaning to let you know that I appreciated this introduction to Melissa Urban’s work. I delved deeper into The Book Of Boundaries and Whole30. Definitely worthwhile.
"Never say yes automatically" - this reminds me of Brene Brown's method of spinning her spinner ring (that she calls her boundaries ring) three times when someone asks her to do something so she has time to remind herself to "choose discomfort over resentment."
Both quotes prioritize only saying yes to the things that won't make you feel crazy or make you regret them later. You're building something. You're building for yourself a life of peace.
I love her advice: go for walks. Read somewhere that we’re built for 12 miles a day. She actually suggests this twice: take hikes. Walking is powerful. Cheryl strayed walked the pacific trail and kicked her heroin habit in the process. I would add to this something that has had a big effect on my mental health: take long drives. When I am home stewing in indecision and chewing on a problem I need resolved, no solutions come to mind. But if I leave the house and drive 45 minutes and more, the solutions find me. I have had so many aha moments while driving that it is my go to. Partly it is a much needed change of scenery but I am convinced other magic I cannot identify is going on.
I agree with the don’t say yes idea in principle but I also believe that doing hard things or kind things we don’t want to do is sometimes the best thing even for ourselves.
Always fascinating, Chris, to sit in with you on these interviews. Melissa Urban is a brand new discovery. The New Whole 30 sounds like her "lessons learned" from lots of customers. Some context with your audience would be helpful. Can you estimate what percentage of your total audience has embraced and committed to everything in the Whole 30? And you? When did you first find and then follow the Whole 30?
Best piece of advice ever…
“Never say yes automatically.”
Hi Chris. I’ve been meaning to let you know that I appreciated this introduction to Melissa Urban’s work. I delved deeper into The Book Of Boundaries and Whole30. Definitely worthwhile.
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