Love this! Finding the friction points is so helpful in making the world work for you, instead of the other way around. I meditate in the morning, and I used to always sit in the same place -- even when I wanted to sit somewhere else -- because the thought of moving my mat or a cushion was too much. One morning I was feeling energetic and I moved my mat, and it was wonderful to have a change of pace. But the next morning, I couldn't face moving my mat, even though I wanted to sit somewhere else. I knew I needed to address the friction! I decided to put something comfortable by every spot I could possibly sit and now I can sit wherever I want without having to think about it. This sounds like a small thing, but it starts off my day with a sense of freedom.
I really love this! Especially as I'm about to empty my fridge and discover how much has spoiled or is well past expiration. I think it'll be a fun game to play with fellow ADHDers to see how much we paid in ADHD Fridge Tax! LOL!
I loved the analogy to paying tolls. My mission in life isn't to never pay tolls. That's brilliant!
I use a mantra "be cool with yourself" when these frustrating realizations hit, like a credit card bill that wasn't on autopay so I have to tack on a ridiculously large $30 late fee. That, or to steal a page from the Seinfeld script..."SERENITY NOW!"
Managing my energy not my time was a big revelation for me. I'm so not one of the "get up at 5a or 6a and write or read" type of people. My creative energy hits mid-afternoon and I've given myself permission to use my mornings for whatever my brain craves (usually Wordle and games, some news stories, Wikipedia deep dives).
Also, I paid the struggle tax heavily in my 20s. After years of getting financially back on track, I realized there was a lot of fear, depression, sorrow (and an overpowering feeling that I just didn't know myself well yet) in my 'bad' decisions. It took me a while to uncover the symptoms of what was really going on and deal with that versus beat myself up.
So funny this laundry basket example... because as I'm settling into my new house, I have certainly subconsciously decided where my dirty clothes go. Haven't yet found the basket in the boxes still unopened, but when I do, it's going right where I keep throwing the clothes!
This is so true! First, for me is understanding my rhythm, that I’m an early bird who’s useless at creative tasks after midday. Other people’s 9-to-5 is my 4-to-12!
Then there is a need to zoom in and understand the resonance of certain tasks with my nature. Sometimes those tasks that do resonate, such as writing newsletters about my current life, might get overwhelming. So I distract by using the tasks that don’t resonate, such as working on my traumatic Memoir. In other words, it’s all relative; sometimes when the good things turn bad, the bad things turn good!
Love this! Finding the friction points is so helpful in making the world work for you, instead of the other way around. I meditate in the morning, and I used to always sit in the same place -- even when I wanted to sit somewhere else -- because the thought of moving my mat or a cushion was too much. One morning I was feeling energetic and I moved my mat, and it was wonderful to have a change of pace. But the next morning, I couldn't face moving my mat, even though I wanted to sit somewhere else. I knew I needed to address the friction! I decided to put something comfortable by every spot I could possibly sit and now I can sit wherever I want without having to think about it. This sounds like a small thing, but it starts off my day with a sense of freedom.
I really love this! Especially as I'm about to empty my fridge and discover how much has spoiled or is well past expiration. I think it'll be a fun game to play with fellow ADHDers to see how much we paid in ADHD Fridge Tax! LOL!
I loved the analogy to paying tolls. My mission in life isn't to never pay tolls. That's brilliant!
I use a mantra "be cool with yourself" when these frustrating realizations hit, like a credit card bill that wasn't on autopay so I have to tack on a ridiculously large $30 late fee. That, or to steal a page from the Seinfeld script..."SERENITY NOW!"
Managing my energy not my time was a big revelation for me. I'm so not one of the "get up at 5a or 6a and write or read" type of people. My creative energy hits mid-afternoon and I've given myself permission to use my mornings for whatever my brain craves (usually Wordle and games, some news stories, Wikipedia deep dives).
Also, I paid the struggle tax heavily in my 20s. After years of getting financially back on track, I realized there was a lot of fear, depression, sorrow (and an overpowering feeling that I just didn't know myself well yet) in my 'bad' decisions. It took me a while to uncover the symptoms of what was really going on and deal with that versus beat myself up.
So funny this laundry basket example... because as I'm settling into my new house, I have certainly subconsciously decided where my dirty clothes go. Haven't yet found the basket in the boxes still unopened, but when I do, it's going right where I keep throwing the clothes!
Key hook = game changer
Oh man, I need to look into this.
This is so true! First, for me is understanding my rhythm, that I’m an early bird who’s useless at creative tasks after midday. Other people’s 9-to-5 is my 4-to-12!
Then there is a need to zoom in and understand the resonance of certain tasks with my nature. Sometimes those tasks that do resonate, such as writing newsletters about my current life, might get overwhelming. So I distract by using the tasks that don’t resonate, such as working on my traumatic Memoir. In other words, it’s all relative; sometimes when the good things turn bad, the bad things turn good!
Can’t get your taxes in on time? Just file an extension!!! The best thing in the world is filing. An. Extension!!!!
Yes. Once I discovered extensions, I never looked back. 🤓