I wholeheartedly agree...the aspect of this that is not discussed here or in the articles attached is that if it's a team sport or if there's a bracket involved to determine the medalists, the winner of the bronze medal wins a third place game to earn that medal, as opposed to the silver medalist who loses the first place game. The lasting memory is that final contest, and that's what sticks in people's heads immediately after the competition, good or bad.
Ah, the role of luck. We don't hear much about that in conventional success stories do we? Especially when entrepreneurs talk about how anyone could do this, if only they would put the work in too. Isn't it called survivor bias: we take lessons from winners, when in fact so many losers have perhaps used exactly the same process.
What strikes me here is that this is about high expectations in comparison to others. I think, and someone correct me if I’m wrong here, but high expectations about your own achievements can be motivating. . . That even if you don’t get to your goal you achieve more than if you didn’t have one.
Do your best, expect to win, and if it doesn't live up to the expectation, shrug and "oh well" it. (This has been what worked for me, particularly in the last few months)
One can always do your best again, or do your best differently, or not. It's different for everyone.
In high school I was going to run for president of a club but it seemed that a more popular student would win and I didn’t want the “loser” job of vice president so I ran for another position which I got. Who could have foreseen that the popular kid who won would have gotten literally run over by a bus and I could have slipped into the position?!? Regrets.
I wholeheartedly agree...the aspect of this that is not discussed here or in the articles attached is that if it's a team sport or if there's a bracket involved to determine the medalists, the winner of the bronze medal wins a third place game to earn that medal, as opposed to the silver medalist who loses the first place game. The lasting memory is that final contest, and that's what sticks in people's heads immediately after the competition, good or bad.
I was going to comment this. Winking third place definitely feels different than losing first place to get second place.
Ah, the role of luck. We don't hear much about that in conventional success stories do we? Especially when entrepreneurs talk about how anyone could do this, if only they would put the work in too. Isn't it called survivor bias: we take lessons from winners, when in fact so many losers have perhaps used exactly the same process.
What strikes me here is that this is about high expectations in comparison to others. I think, and someone correct me if I’m wrong here, but high expectations about your own achievements can be motivating. . . That even if you don’t get to your goal you achieve more than if you didn’t have one.
Agree!
Do your best, expect to win, and if it doesn't live up to the expectation, shrug and "oh well" it. (This has been what worked for me, particularly in the last few months)
One can always do your best again, or do your best differently, or not. It's different for everyone.
I have been in 4 marathons...and the only one i was competing against was myself. My desire was simply to cross the finish line!
In high school I was going to run for president of a club but it seemed that a more popular student would win and I didn’t want the “loser” job of vice president so I ran for another position which I got. Who could have foreseen that the popular kid who won would have gotten literally run over by a bus and I could have slipped into the position?!? Regrets.