Just love the idea, thanks for sharing. For me, it echoes the Buddhist way of inner happiness which does not depend from external circumstances and teaches us the art of acceptance. It's not necessary to fight the life, just to accept the flow of things. And it never means stay passive or inactive, just inner setting regarding what we cannot control in life.
I think we're meant to experience the whole range of emotions here. It would be quite boring if everything was always the same base level all of the time. Great read :)
The whole piece stays inside one frame: what happens to me, how do I manage my own state. The fix-it mindset optimizes for my satisfaction. Its failure produces my shame at failing to fix my own unhappiness. Accepting "ordinary unhappiness" is still managing the same thing, just aimed at a lower target instead of a higher one. Same machinery, gloomier setpoint.
Worth asking directly: are there happy people in the world? Genuinely, yes, and mostly not the ones who lowered their expectations. What actually correlates with durable wellbeing, across a lot of research, is attention pointed outward, toward something beyond yourself, not any particular strategy for managing your own internal weather. That's Frankl's whole argument before you even need to name him.
Chris - you are spot on! Thank you for your profound reminder...
"Fill up on the joy and accept the sorrow for what it is—a necessary ingredient of a complete life."
I find happiness is hardly consistent, but contentment comes closer
Just love the idea, thanks for sharing. For me, it echoes the Buddhist way of inner happiness which does not depend from external circumstances and teaches us the art of acceptance. It's not necessary to fight the life, just to accept the flow of things. And it never means stay passive or inactive, just inner setting regarding what we cannot control in life.
I think we're meant to experience the whole range of emotions here. It would be quite boring if everything was always the same base level all of the time. Great read :)
The whole piece stays inside one frame: what happens to me, how do I manage my own state. The fix-it mindset optimizes for my satisfaction. Its failure produces my shame at failing to fix my own unhappiness. Accepting "ordinary unhappiness" is still managing the same thing, just aimed at a lower target instead of a higher one. Same machinery, gloomier setpoint.
Worth asking directly: are there happy people in the world? Genuinely, yes, and mostly not the ones who lowered their expectations. What actually correlates with durable wellbeing, across a lot of research, is attention pointed outward, toward something beyond yourself, not any particular strategy for managing your own internal weather. That's Frankl's whole argument before you even need to name him.
Yeah, love it. Let’s focus on the cool stuff 😎.