Choose a Life Purpose (Any Purpose Will Do)
βHe made everything better for everyone" and other examples.
The lesson of this post can be condensed into ten words: having a life purpose is better than not having one.
When you have some sort of compass point to refer to as you go through life, you tend to feel better. Being able to point to something youβre working towards also helps.
Iβll use that phraseβlife purposeβbut you can also think of it as a mission statement, guiding value, or whatever you prefer.
What should yours be? Iβll give you some suggestions and examples, but the best advice is βdonβt overthink it.β
Simply choose somethingβanything. Tell yourself that you can change it any time you want. (You probably wonβt end up changing it too often, but by giving yourself permission to do so, you wonβt feel as much pressure in choosing something.)
Even if your life purpose seems somewhat generic, merely choosing a sentence or phrase can help. While itβs usually better to have specific goals that can be measured, something as overarching as a life purpose can be expressed more generally.
βHe made everything better for everyone.β
One of my favorite phrases came from a newspaper headline I saw the day after Bill Russell died.
Russell was an early basketball star, chosen second in the 1956 draft. He played throughout the 1960s, leading the league in rebounds and setting an example in more ways than one.
It wasnβt just his basketball skills that stood out. Russell was also a civil rights activist, speaking out forcefully against the discrimination that Black Americans regularly experienced. Barack Obama later awarded him the Presidential Medal of Freedom.
I confess I didnβt know much about Russell until after his death, and it was the headline in the paper that stopped me in my tracks as I was walking out of a 7-Eleven store. βHe made everything better for everyone,β it read, and I thought about that statement for days.
I loved the idea of spending as much time as possible on making something better for someone wherever I could.
I even added the phrase to my work diary, so that Iβd think about it each day as I reviewed my projects.
Other Examples
That phraseβHe made everything better for everyoneβis the perfect example of a life purpose.
Itβs not overly wordy, like a corporate mission statement. It leaves the expression open to many different interpretations, while still providing clarity.
If this was your life purpose (and feel free to use it for yourself; I donβt think Bill Russell owns the copyright), it could give you comfort when you make choices and decide on priorities.
Here are a few other examples:
βShe loved, always.β
βTo improve the quality of life of my patients.β
βTo live without resentment.β
βFind the strength to do both.β
βBe the person I needed when I was a child.β
βTo learn at least one new thing each day.β
βTo help as many elderly people as possible.β
All of these pass the same test as Bill Russellβs phrase. Each one is broad and open to interpretation, yet clear enough to provide guidance. Theyβre also easy enough to refer to when youβre feeling anxious about the future.
If your life purpose is βTo learn at least one new thing each day,β thereβs a built-in next step, as well as a pretty obvious way to measure your life.
At the end of the day, you could simply ask yourself: βWell, did you learn something today? And what will you learn tomorrow?β
My choice: βThere is another way.β
As much as I liked the Bill Russell phrase (βHe made everything better for everyoneβ), I wanted to find something different for myself.Β I settled on four words: There is another way.
This concept is a clear through-line for my life. It has served me well time and time again. I was never the smartest student, but I learned to work hard and look for alternative paths when I got stuck.
It also connects to my individual goalsβwhat I hope to do for myselfβas well as my overall wish to help people live unconventionally, in whatever way is best for them.
When I feel frustrated or discouraged, I return to this concept. Maybe the best answer is to try something different, I tell myself. What have I not considered?Β
Remember, having a life purpose (anything!) is better than not having one. I went with βThere is another wayβ because it felt most true to myself.
What about you? Choose something today, without overthinking it.
You can always update it if you change your mindβand until then, being able to point to a grounding principle may help you feel better.
This reminds me of something my grandmother told me about 10 years before she passed, something that has really stuck with me.
Sheβd been very active, in every sense of the word, for most of her life. Involved parent and grandparent, frequent traveler, volunteer, Sunday School teacher, and much more. Once she hit her 80s, she didnβt feel up to being that person anymore. She was slowing down, my grandfather was gone, grandchildren basically all grown. I think she felt like she should be doing more for others, the way she always had. (Not in a martyr way, just in a spirit of real service and generosity having always been part of her life.)
In the midst of this, she was reading her Bible and encountered the phrase, βJesus went about doing good,β and she thought, hey, I can do that.
As my capacity to βdoβ has become limited by my physical health in the last few years, I find myself thinking about this a lot. Iβm still working on a new framework for thinking about deeper meaning and using my gifts. But I hope I can at least βgo about doing good,β and find some peace in that.
Love this. I try to do something to make the world a better place when I go to bed than it was when I got up. I try to call people by their name (and I'm really not very good remembering names - name tags are my friend!). I complement the person in the grocery store on their excellent bagging skills or their lovely earrings. I hold doors, I pick up things people drop, I say please and thank you, and I smile. I'm not curing diseases, but we have far more "average" minutes in the world than we have critical diseases - I'm good taking care of the day-to-day.