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Emily Pittman's avatar

This is soooo helpful! I’m going to give it a try. šŸ’•

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FW's avatar

Soooo agree but difficult to do at times. I remember reading somewhere an author said you don’t have to finish this book if it sucks!! Just put it down and walk away! It was a revelation like I needed permission to say it’s ok not to finish if you’re doing something you don’t like, just stop now and do something that gives you pleasure 🤯

I started doing this in other areas of my life. Like watching a movie called the 10min rule. When watching a movie with friends-partner you give the movie 10min if anyone thinks the movie sucks then we change to another one. It’s very freeing!!

The sunken cost fallacy is hard to break. I’m going to remember the line ā€œsmart resource managementā€. Succinct and simple!

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Melissa Sandfort's avatar

So important!

I started the Radical IFS podcast because I wanted to share my IFS work, but no one signed up at all.

Then I had to go to the hospital for appendicitis!

When I got back home after five days in the hospital, I realized the amount of effort it took me to upload and create all the summaries and information for the podcast was killing me.

It’s a project I really loved and believed in, but I needed it to be supported in some way – with each podcast taking about three hours of time, I needed at least three subscribers to fund the support it would have taken to keep it going.

Quitting felt great!!

While I still have over 200 podcasts ready to be uploaded – four years’ worth of weekly and super cool Internal Family Systems work — I put the project on the shelf for the future, when I’ll be able to better fund it.

Sometimes, it’s just not the time for a certain project and killing ourselves to make something happen before it’s time isn’t worth it!

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C.P. Alemdar's avatar

WAIT I love this. Thank you for this exercise!

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